I saw you
today, it was an odd encounter. You were standing in my favorite ice cream shop
and you took me by surprise.
I haven’t
let you know that I moved here, I haven’t picked up the phone or sent you a
text, I knew Calgary was big enough that I likely wouldn’t ever run into you,
and then there you were standing in front of me with those big blue eyes that would make the ocean jealous and smile
that once made me weak in the knees.
The last
time we saw each other we were standing in my apartment on Thanksgiving weekend, and I
was holding your hand as I told you I needed space and time, as I told you I
needed to find myself and I needed to find myself without you. The last time I
saw you I broke your heart. You were my life raft, you were my sanctuary, you
were my refuge from the storm and I needed to learn to tread water on my own I allowed you to become
too much in my life. I needed you too much.
We had just
started dating when I was raped and you jumped on the first flight to see me
when I called you in uncontrollable tears; tears that made me feel like I was
drowning in my own grief.
You were
more than I could ever ask for, you were more than what I wanted. You took a
leave of absence from your job to come make sure I was ok, you drove me to
therapy, to doctors appointments. You sat with me as I had a blank stare on my
face as I looked into outer darkness. You wiped my tears when I would have
nightmares and you held my hand when the emotions got too much for me. You
assured me often I was going to be ok, you pulled me back from the brink of
losing myself.
That
Thanksgiving, three months after my raped happened, three months after you put
your life on hold to help me heal, I realized I needed to heal on my own. I
needed to tread water on my own, I needed to learn to breath on my own again.
Until that
moment I never had anyone give up anything for me. I was always the one making
sacrifices for everyone else. In that moment it was too much for me, in that
moment I needed to learn to save myself.
As soon as
you saw me you sprinted towards me, picked me up, spun me around, and looked at
me like I was a rare jewel – in the words of F. Scott Fitzgerald “he looked at
her in the way all girls want to be looked at by a man”.
You have so many
questions for me and I had so little answers for you.
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